I’m a single mom, and I have a teenage son who lives at home and commutes to college. I feel sure that he’s dating someone (there are lots of late nights and private phone calls), but he’s made no mention of it. I hate to pry, but it’s making me worry that he’s at risk. I’m not sure if I’m more worried about
an unplanned pregnancy or just heartbreak. How do I ask without being a busybody? Concerned Mom
Dear Concerned, Teenage boys are more likely to listen to men, so I suggest that you have him speak to his father or another male role model. You can explain to the man what to ask, and then he can report back to you. Make sure he doesn’t tell your son that you put him up to it, or you might not get the info you are looking for.
My next door neighbors have a great time in bed- and everyone in the
building knows it. These people are so loud, it’s embarrassing. Other than
pounding on the wall and swearing (which I don’t do) what the right way to
ask them to get a room- somewhere else? Sleepless in Culver City
You can knock on their door and tell them that they’re too loud. You have to be direct and polite at first. If they do not get the hint, then you can tell the building manager (if you have one) or call the police if you have to.
Working in a very small office, I realized that my boss was having a
relationship with one of the other employees. When the boss knew that I
knew, I got the axe. I truly don’t care who sleeps with whom – I’m all in
favor the two-consenting-adults rule, but now I’m unemployed, and it’s a
bummer. People are shocked that I got fired. What do I say ? Out the Door
You can file a complaint with the HR Department and tell previous co-workers the truth. You did nothing wrong, so you have nothing to hide. You can hire a lawyer if you really want your job back.
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